There is a man in the WOE Bridge-House
And the propeller blades experiment
A few months ago, in one of the Building Love That Last Study Group calls, Kristoffer found out that Sónia and I were living in the Women of Earth Bridge-House, a Gaian Gameworld for women training themselves to Hold Space for Archiarchy. He asked us to give him feedback and coaching, and take him through the transformational Propeller Blades.
The Propeller Blades are the Sword of Clarity blades of Women who hold space for Archiarchy, so that whatever is not Man (with a capital M) can die. Whatever is not Man is immature, uninitiated, trigger-happy-tantrum-throwing-center-of-attention-take-care-of-me-teenage-ravaging-Gremlin-boy, who is capable of creating and maintaining a culture that kills all life on planet earth so that he can have self-importance, power, toys, and sex slaves. The term comes out of a radically clear article written by both Possibility Management Trainers Anne-Chloé Destremau and Clinton Callahan called Beyond Repair - 7 stages of women bridging men to Archiarchy.
After a couple of calls Kristoffer accepted to do the experiment of spending one week in the WOEBH, to go through as much Feedback, coaching, healing, and transformation he could so he could enter a Liquid State so deep and devastating, that he cannot be in any way repaired into its previous form.
One single week with this man, amidst the fours months only for Women. As Women Inventing Archiarchy together, we said ‘YES’ to this experiment. This ‘YES’ immediately created for each Women an equally deep Liquid State.
As the week was approaching, the questions, fears, and Survival Strategies started to take on mini explosions in the conversations at the Bridge-House. It was palpable in the space the resistance to a man entering the incredibly rich, vulnerable, and safe space that the Women had created so lovingly and so patiently. At times it seemed that the women were doing everything they could to not let their Gremlins from throwing venom in the space even before the man had arrived. The thousand year-old hatred towards men would try to surface as surely as oil on water.
Then came the Self-doubt of the Women. How to know if what they have is Clarity or the old hatred towards men? How to speak with Clarity, Dignity, and Arrogance, without punishment, and also without overcompensating the fact they have a Gremlin? How much is too much? How much is too little? Where is her responsibility? Where is his responsibility?
Then more fears. Fear that a man coming would destroy the Women Of Earth Bridge-House experiment. Fear that the Women would be spending all their time focussing on walking the line well. Fear that they would be fake. Fear that the experiment would not bring any real fruits. Fear that the women would confront themselves with how much they are not living fully in Archiarchy. Fear that the man would hurt them. Fear that the women would close down their radiance and Non-Material Value around the man, and the fear of that all too familiar pain of betraying themselves. Fear that the women would all compete for the man’s approval. Fear that they would not even give him a chance. Fear that their Rescuer would be triggered and they would be treating him like a partner-son. Fear that we would not provide value. Fear that he would not transform enough. Fear that the experiment would not be interesting enough or radical enough, or successful enough. Fear that he would get reactive and old traumas would resurface and be too much to bare, with so little time after to repair and heal. Fear that the women would stop creating, that they would stop doing the highly nourishing research and collaboration because they would be busy with ‘handling’ the man. Fear that the worse would come out of the women. Fear that they would try to seduce him or be easily seduced and betray their sisters, again. All these fears, like in the Beyond Repair article, show the presence and edge of Patriarchy in each of the Women.
Yes, there were Emotional Healing Processes. In fact at the WOE Bridge-House there is a clear culture of clearing the emotional reactivity through EHP’s, so much so that there is often a couple of Processes happening each day. We had a preparation call with Anne-Chloé, partly to get possibilities for the fears that were conscious, partly to get encouragement, and mostly to get clear about Context and orientation.
Kristoffer arrived late at night with an Uber that could not find the property, and proposed a check-in the next morning.
In the check-in Kristoffer opened with his intentions. It was visible he was feeling a lot of fear, a lot of sadness, and a lot of hidden anger, this often mixing in shame. The women spoke, making it clear what was their stand while they were there, sharing their Liquid States, and sharing how they perceived themselves immediately change in the Bridge-House. It was clear that already some Integrity and Dignity had already been abandoned in some women. It was as if one small change, even one man, in the group could throw the culture for some women.
Luckily, those women do not stand alone. With Clarity, precision, and conscious Anger, Meredith puts the Poop on the Table about the betrayal of the women to their Dignity as being adaptive and shifting into Child Ego State. Her Conscious Anger wakes those women up to re-Center, raise their own Anger, and move slower. Anna declares with the sharpest energetic Sword of Clarity I have ever seen her wield that she will NOT Rescue Kristoffer, and that if he wants something to happen, he needs to asks clearly and verbally.
By the end of the meeting I was smiling, thinking: “this might be the best experiment for the Women to grow into the Spaceholders of Archiarchy yet. It is already working”.
Some days go by and Kristoffer is mostly showing his ‘good boy’ show. He is asking questions politely, giving the women space, asking for possibilities, sharing how the day has been for him. All ‘reasonable’ things to do. Some women likely feel some relief about that, what is wrong with any of these behaviours?
Bur other women cannot stand it. The fake show of “I’m a good guy, I am not like the others. I just don’t know how this goes. Please show me the way. Please help me repent. I will do what you want. I will say what you want. Yes, I want connection. Yes, intimacy and letting the heart speak. Yes, I must cry to show sensitivity. Yes, I must also say something right now to be with them. I must be of service.” All of it a fake, for survival. Kristoffer is trying to make us believe that he, a person who decided to fly across the Atlantic Ocean to spend one single week in one of the most dangerous places for his patriarchal strategies, is a meek simple guy with no clarity, no risk, no drive. That he is a lost puppy.
We don’t buy it.
We do an experiment of shifting identity consciously. He makes moves to become the Guardian of Dignity of Gaia. He forgets about it and keeps plays the good boy show. Kristoffer’s fear of not being accepted by the women or of behaving as a Patriarch, stops him from letting his Underworld be seen so that it can be transformed, but it also blocks the power of his Being and its thirst for a true purpose to fulfil.
Again the fierce Meredith sets up a meeting. The meeting is not just for Kristoffer to put the poop on the table, it is for the Women too. And it’s the Women that go first.
The way the Poop On The Table happens is that each woman says how they have been playing the Good Girl show, how they have been feeling Emotional Fear and not been sharing or asking for Emotional Healing Processes. How they have been secretly and Unconsciously Exchanging Sexual Energy with Kristoffer. How they have quieted their Anger. Then the Women start also putting other Women’s Poop on the Table. “I feel angry that you did not take care of this as you said you would.” “I feel angry and scared that you left the House and isolated yourself and did not communicate for days when you were with this man“. One by one each Woman calls another one out of Survival and into Responsibility. They put it all on the table without self-pity or punishment. They put it all on the table as a call for Teamwork. They ask immediately, how can I do different? Who can hold space tomorrow for my Process? Who is on My Team for this new skill? Women quickly hire each other, a physical sword of clarity is created, and we turn to face Kristoffer again.
Kristoffer looks at all this quietly. What is he thinking? Is he amazed at how we are fierce with each other without Reactivity? How we Love each other so much that we do not let the other Woman bullshit us—or even worse, herself? And that we are doing it so right in front of him, with pragmatism and care? I have no idea what he is thinking, but as soon as we turn to him and ask “what about you? What are you putting on the table?”, the response is dramatically different. The man is quiet for a long while, seemingly measuring his words.
After a lot of fumbling for answers, the Good Boy play kicks in again. There are tears, there are pleas of help, questions being asked. But these questions are disempowered, they ask “what should I do?” One by one, slowly each woman tries a hack at the Box’s defence. “What are you really feeling?", “what is underneath?”, “I don’t believe you. I think you are feeling scared.” “I think you are feeling really angry.” "what are you really doing here?”
Still no real answer.
At some point I stand up. The rage inside me is burning. It’s enough playing around. It’s enough spending all this time in silence of a real answer. I know that the Women are also feeling Angry about this. I stand up and ask two Women to hold me and two Women to hold him. I start raging, calling him to be real. The other Women too. —“what are you doing here?” At first some anger about not knowing, some bullshit about not being able to, being lost. The women and I kept fighting for him: “that’s bullshit, stop with the good boy lost boy fucking game with me! Look at me! Tell me what you want here! What is your life for? WHAT IS YOU LIFE FOR?”
The women are fierce. I can see all them being angry for Kristoffer. I can see them feel the hatred of the little boy pretence, the bullshit little prince who is trying really hard, and use that Clarity to keep saying “that’s not the real you!” and keep asking what is he taking a stand for really, what is he going to give his life to.
Finally something happens inside Kristoffer. He is not thinking about the right words anymore. He is not thinking. He is not trying to please us, he is not trying to save his skin. He stopped trying to not be killed by us and he is just letting words speak about what really matters to him. Dignified words. How he is taking a stand for the protection of Gaia. How he is taking a stand for the protection of women taking a stand. How he is facing other men and not being silent about their patriarchy any longer.
He keeps going.
At the end we Women just stand in front of him. No clapping, no smiling. We stand witnessing what Kristoffer said and what work and Archetypal Lineage wants to come through him. Kristoffer’s soul is utterly naked to us, and we do not rescue him, we simply honour his stand by standing with him. Now not in a show anymore, he lets his real fear show and finally speaks out.
—”I am scared I don’t have the skills to hold this stand. I don’t have a team, I cannot do this by myself. I don’t know where to go”. We nod.
—”yes, that fear is appropriate. That fear will show you the path. Each fear will tell you about a skill or a competence you will need to develop. You already have the first few. Find a team of men to work with exactly on this. Even right now, you can go ask for a listening space with a man, and recruit the men for your Team.”
He did so. No coddling. The women treated this Man as a Guardian of Dignitary, and nothing less. After that Kristoffer’s presence changed. It was as if he gained some solidity. Some Being weight.
But the Women Of Earth are not fooled. It takes a lot more than this the layers of Patriarchy to peel and burn beyond repair.
Later that week, it was time for Kristoffer to say goodbye. We had a traditional final sharing leaving space, where we appreciated Kristoffer for somehow in the midst of so many Possibilitator men around the world, and even in Brazil, he was the one who went first, and flew all the way from Europe, to heal and transform himself more into a Man who can take a real stand for Archiarchy.
This is the message Kristoffer wrote on the WOE News & Legends Telegram group as he left:
I just left the Woman of the Earth Bridge House with a heart full of joy, and while writing this, sadness arises. The driver's first question was "How am I doing?" and I have the feeling this is because all the other women he was picking up were crying as they got into the car.
I just celebrated goodbye with hugs, high fives, fierce handshakes, and appreciative looks. I am full of joy because of the EHP Party that was happening until 30 minutes before I said goodbye. There, I found a light in my underworld which I left behind as a young boy, angry and sad about the place I was born into – my family with all the low drama going on, and the city with all its limiting offers for children. This light of aliveness I invited into myself, into my life, because I have jobs to do, projects to work on, and things to write. There is magic I am supposed to do.
I feel so honoured and grateful for the time at the WOEBH and for witnessing such fierceful sorceresses who are fulfilling a job Gaia has assigned to them, and I am deeply touched. I don’t know if people from the world I created before coming here will recognize me anymore. And that is quite unimportant. The more important part for me is to see my daughter and the woman I am in an intimate relating space with new eyes and practice relating from being to being and not unconsciously, sleepwalking also with my Box and underworld and mixing this unaware.
More important than that is to position myself so that archetypal forces and my bright principles can work through me. I find myself in the most noble company, and I am looking forward to extracting the projects Gaia wants me to undertake.
The stance that these women are taking shakes me to my core; how they support each other brings me to tears. Sitting at the dinner table and experiencing the magic and love that unfolds touches my heart deeply. Experiencing the clarity in how feedback and coaching are given and received is an expression of their pure dignity. These women have invoked something within me that I can express with the words dignity, aliveness, and joy. They took a bigger stand for my life than I could do.
I bow down in deep honor, and when I am able to create even one tenth of what they are creating, I would consider myself a human who lived fully.
Woman of Earth you are Legends.
I Love you
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As Kristoffer’s ride left the house with him in it, the Women immediately experienced an energetic difference in the house and themselves, created by his absence. To be honest, some or even most of the women experienced relief. There was sadness too. It became obvious that the experiment of this man coming to the Bridge-House was not just for Kristoffer, it was also for us to grow up. We discovered a few helpful orientations that helped us navigate in an empowered way:
We do not owe the man healing or transformation.
The experiment is a Collaboration, not a service that we deliver. We do not create a ‘program’ for the man to go through.
We are Centered in our own center, our own research and evolutionary Path. If and when our path and research meet the man’s path and research there can be Collaboration.
Acting as if the man is not there is a Survival Strategy to not be in Reality and deal with our own incompetence.
We also discovered that the Women Of Earth have some Clarity to deliver and hold space for, in the path of man becoming Archan Man. We want to Collaborate with Men who are interesting enough to take them through the Propeller Blades. For them to even be ready for the Propeller Blades, there is preparation needed. We call it the Propeller Preparation Portal. We are planning a series of Propeller Preparation Portal Worktalk Series for both men and women, with titles that could look like:
Women Holding Space for Men to do Mens Work.
Your Patriarchy X on the Map.
Feeling the pain of Gaia.
What is your life for?
Goodbye Little Boy Show.
Attention & Presence with Women.
Regarding the Feminine.
Negotiate with Dignity.
Some titles might change. Lookout dear Archan friends, there is Fire and Possibility coming your way soon.